Today I wanted to share with you some tips that have helped me get over someone. Hopefully they help you too!
1) STAY BUSY
Being busy is the best way to make sure you aren’t thinking about someone irrelevant. Now is the time to fully immerse yourself in school, work, or personal projects that you have been postponing for a while. Plus, being actually busy with things that enrich your life means that you’re helping your future self, and that’s a great thig!
2) DON’T CHECK UP ON THEM
In my experience the best thing to do after an ugly breakup is to disassociate yourself from that person. This means deleting/blocking them on social media, deleting their number,etc. By doing this, you’ll eliminate the desire of wanting to call/text them or go through their feed-trust me you’re doing yourself a favor. It may seem tough, but it’s best to just bite the bullet.
3) GO OUT
Say yes to outings you would usually skip out on. Go out with your friends more and enjoy yourself. Alot of time in relationships (especially new ones)people tend to neglect their friends in order to spend more time with their partner. Going to dinner and reconnecting with your friends can be just what the doctor ordered for a time like this. Smiling/laughing and having a chat with your friends can really take your mind off things and make you realize that life goes on.
4) DONT SUGAR COAT THINGS
Often after a breakup, people want to remember all the good times and good qualities about their ex, while forgetting the reason they broke up. Chances are, there are actually a decent amount of qualities/issues you have with that person, but you are not acknowledging or have been giving them the benefit of the doubt. Getting into those negative attributes can really help you see that the breakup was for the best, and you are better off without said person.
5) DONT WALLOW IN YOUR GRIEF
Of course it’s important to mourn the relationship, and depending on the nature and time period of the relationship, the mourning period will vary. However, in my experience it’s best to limit the “mourning period ” to a week maximum. Any more than that and you can end up feeling very down and depressed about life in general, which is counter-productive to getting back on the metaphorical horse that is life.
Feel free to share your tips below. And always remember, your worth is not dependent on any relationship-your value lies within yourself.